What is Love!?
Is it a paradise or hell?!
Is it peace or war?!
Is it necessary to find it?!
Is it possible to live without it!?
IS it a pleasure or torture!?
Is it joy or sadness!?
Is it happiness or loneliness!?
Does it last!?
Does it ACTUALLY exist!?
Can we find it and never let it go!?
Can we find it and be happy forever!?
Is it breakable!?
Is it possible to fix it if something goes wrong!?
Is it trust or betrayal!?
Is it certainty or doubts!?
Is it calm or crazy!?
Does it hurt!?
Before, after or during!?
Did anybody die from not having it!?
What are we looking for!? I want to know the exact definition.
What color is it!? Shape!? Taste!? Smell!? Can I touch it!?
People say you really love once, and it is a feeling you will never forget, and it will never feel the same, but a real, strong love happens just once.
Do you believe in it!?
People say if you find the one, you will know it right away.
Do you believe in it!?
May be it is easier to be unhappy or lonely because we are used to it!?
What if you find your love and it drives you crazy, you loose your sleep, everything turns upside down and this wave of undiscovered, strong, powerful, amazing feeling just possesses you, penetrates every part of your body, gets under your skin, crawls into your mind.
And you are getting scared, you never felt like this before.
It is so amazing so its terrifying.
It is so new, so great, so unbelievable, so you can not stop thinking about how not to fuck this up. Because you are so fucking good at destroying, at breaking, at hurting, at lying, at being independent, at being alone, at not feeling, at letting it go.....
And you are in pain, in pain because you do not want to loose what you have been searching for all your life.....
So please explain to me what is love and how to handle it!?
Can you not be scared!?
Can you try to be calm and not to destroy it, not to smash it, not to ruin it, not to throw it away!?
Not to fuck it up!?
And the more you think about it the craziest things come to your mind.....
It is so easy to f...k great things up......
Monday, March 21, 2011
Monday, March 14, 2011
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!
Have you ever asked yourself this question?! If yes, then this article is for you........ and for me.
If we look around, there are so many beautiful single men and women.
They meet people,
they go on dates,
they get involved,
they have relationships,
they break up.
And women ask themselves questions:
Why didn't it last?
What did I do wrong?
Why can't I find the one?
Why did he let me go so easily?
Why we didn't make it work?!
Why am I single again?!
What is wrong with me?!
I can tell you right now
NOTHING
Lets start from a first date.
He is charming and smart,
he is totally handsome and, no doubts, he is your type.
You are flirting, talking, having a great time.
You are happy and a thought: oh my god, may be he is the one is already in your head.
You are ready to jump, even remembering prior experiences of the "fast jumps and broken heart" you are not afraid to take a leap one more time.
Not blaming you.
You spend together 4-5 hours on a first date talking, been so interested in each other,
having all those connections mentioned in books.
You say goodbyes, you exchange a couple of sweet messages about how wonderful was the evening, you feel good and happy,
BUT
he is not going to call you,
he is not going to see you again,
it is not going to be a second date.
And the first question that pops up in woman's head is:
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!
WHAT DID I DO WRONG?
WHAT DID I SAY WRONG?!
- Answer: nothing!
You did great!
You did not play games!
You were yourself!
And you were brilliant,
smart,
intelligent,
witty,
funny,
sexy,
hot,
beautiful,
unique,
mysterious,
gorgeous,
kind,
caring,
interesting,
you looked amazing!
He just got scared,
he could not handle all those qualities in one.
Have you ever heard men talking about women,
they mention always just one quality,
yes,
like : she is hot!
or she is so smart!
And women can handle all qualities:
I met a guy and he was charming,
interesting,
sexy,
handsome,
adorable,
such a gentleman,
kind,
sexy,
well educated,
and blah, blah, blah, blah.
Yes, we can,
they can not!
They can't!
You are too much for him, too complicated, too advanced.......
Do not worry about him!
He wouldn't be able to appreciate all your great qualities any way,
he is not for you.
And while you are thinking what was wrong with you,
a thought like this would never appear in man's head,
men would have never ever think: what was wrong with them,
it is always us,
women.
Look even on break ups.
When a woman is breaking up in most cases she would say: honey, it is not you, it is me, it is my fault. And if a man is breaking up, he would say: It is your fault, you dress too vulgar, you do not understand me, you flirt with strangers, you do not give me space, you do not trust me, you nag me, you ........... and etc.
Also, ladies, if it is not working out with them, may be it is not a right person.
Just think about it next time when you are about to blame yourself and ask this question........
because nothing is wrong with you!!!!!!!
If we look around, there are so many beautiful single men and women.
They meet people,
they go on dates,
they get involved,
they have relationships,
they break up.
And women ask themselves questions:
Why didn't it last?
What did I do wrong?
Why can't I find the one?
Why did he let me go so easily?
Why we didn't make it work?!
Why am I single again?!
What is wrong with me?!
I can tell you right now
NOTHING
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
IS WRONG WITH YOU.
I will explain my answer.
Lets start from a first date.
He is charming and smart,
he is totally handsome and, no doubts, he is your type.
You are flirting, talking, having a great time.
You are happy and a thought: oh my god, may be he is the one is already in your head.
You are ready to jump, even remembering prior experiences of the "fast jumps and broken heart" you are not afraid to take a leap one more time.
Not blaming you.
You spend together 4-5 hours on a first date talking, been so interested in each other,
having all those connections mentioned in books.
You say goodbyes, you exchange a couple of sweet messages about how wonderful was the evening, you feel good and happy,
BUT
he is not going to call you,
he is not going to see you again,
it is not going to be a second date.
And the first question that pops up in woman's head is:
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!
WHAT DID I DO WRONG?
WHAT DID I SAY WRONG?!
- Answer: nothing!
You did great!
You did not play games!
You were yourself!
And you were brilliant,
smart,
intelligent,
witty,
funny,
sexy,
hot,
beautiful,
unique,
mysterious,
gorgeous,
kind,
caring,
interesting,
you looked amazing!
He just got scared,
he could not handle all those qualities in one.
Have you ever heard men talking about women,
they mention always just one quality,
yes,
like : she is hot!
or she is so smart!
And women can handle all qualities:
I met a guy and he was charming,
interesting,
sexy,
handsome,
adorable,
such a gentleman,
kind,
sexy,
well educated,
and blah, blah, blah, blah.
Yes, we can,
they can not!
They can't!
You are too much for him, too complicated, too advanced.......
Do not worry about him!
He wouldn't be able to appreciate all your great qualities any way,
he is not for you.
And while you are thinking what was wrong with you,
a thought like this would never appear in man's head,
men would have never ever think: what was wrong with them,
it is always us,
women.
Look even on break ups.
When a woman is breaking up in most cases she would say: honey, it is not you, it is me, it is my fault. And if a man is breaking up, he would say: It is your fault, you dress too vulgar, you do not understand me, you flirt with strangers, you do not give me space, you do not trust me, you nag me, you ........... and etc.
Also, ladies, if it is not working out with them, may be it is not a right person.
Just think about it next time when you are about to blame yourself and ask this question........
because nothing is wrong with you!!!!!!!
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
RANDOM THOUGHTS............. ON A RAINY DAY.......
We can defriend (unfriend) people, what if we could unfuck people or even better - unlove people.
Imagine "unlove" people..... So we can erase some pain from our memories......
I saw an ad online: speed dating on sale - pay only $17. It means you have a chance to meet "your Mr. Right" on sale. What a beautiful story to tell your kids. LOL! I met your dad on sale for $17.00 during the speed dating. But if you think about the idea - sometimes 5 minutes it is all you need to understand if you want this person or not.
People come to our lives for a minute or 10, for a day or two, for a year or forever........ And sometimes impact that "5 minute person or one day person does is much more powerful than a person who is in your live for 10 years.
It is so easy to talk to strangers...... On a plane, on a train, online........ You are not scared to be judged, or blamed, or hated, or loved..... You are who you are. You are pure and innocent sometimes and so open telling your life story - no lies, just a naked truth (or a total lie)...... And it is so easy to say everything that you could not say before......... We are opening up our hearts and showing our souls to someone we have never met before and will never meet again. And after that we go back living a lie, hiding the truth, scared to be hurt, scared to love and be loved, avoiding pain, not letting people in our hearts and souls until next stranger comes into our live for a moment.
We are looking "for the one".... We do not know what he looks like, what he likes, what makes him the way he is, what is he dreaming about, what he likes for breakfast, we do not know the smell of his skin, size of his shoes, color of his hair, what kind of books he reads, what kind of music he listens, but we are looking for him, we are dating, we are having relationships, we get close to people, intimate with people, hoping and looking, selecting, dreaming, going through life, comparing, getting hurt and hurting others in the order to find just one person, our person. It takes one person to be happy, it takes one person to stop this search.......
Without loving ourselves, we can not love others, we can not give love.....
What if you are my "the one" and i am not yours.............
What if I am "yours" "the One", and you are not mine.......
I want to show you the "worst" of me at first, and if you can handle it, I will show you "my best"....
Imagine "unlove" people..... So we can erase some pain from our memories......
I saw an ad online: speed dating on sale - pay only $17. It means you have a chance to meet "your Mr. Right" on sale. What a beautiful story to tell your kids. LOL! I met your dad on sale for $17.00 during the speed dating. But if you think about the idea - sometimes 5 minutes it is all you need to understand if you want this person or not.
People come to our lives for a minute or 10, for a day or two, for a year or forever........ And sometimes impact that "5 minute person or one day person does is much more powerful than a person who is in your live for 10 years.
It is so easy to talk to strangers...... On a plane, on a train, online........ You are not scared to be judged, or blamed, or hated, or loved..... You are who you are. You are pure and innocent sometimes and so open telling your life story - no lies, just a naked truth (or a total lie)...... And it is so easy to say everything that you could not say before......... We are opening up our hearts and showing our souls to someone we have never met before and will never meet again. And after that we go back living a lie, hiding the truth, scared to be hurt, scared to love and be loved, avoiding pain, not letting people in our hearts and souls until next stranger comes into our live for a moment.
We are looking "for the one".... We do not know what he looks like, what he likes, what makes him the way he is, what is he dreaming about, what he likes for breakfast, we do not know the smell of his skin, size of his shoes, color of his hair, what kind of books he reads, what kind of music he listens, but we are looking for him, we are dating, we are having relationships, we get close to people, intimate with people, hoping and looking, selecting, dreaming, going through life, comparing, getting hurt and hurting others in the order to find just one person, our person. It takes one person to be happy, it takes one person to stop this search.......
Without loving ourselves, we can not love others, we can not give love.....
What if you are my "the one" and i am not yours.............
What if I am "yours" "the One", and you are not mine.......
I want to show you the "worst" of me at first, and if you can handle it, I will show you "my best"....
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