What is past?! It is history. It is over. It is part of us, it is our teacher, it is our experience....
But it is done.
We passed it,
we had it,
we lived it,
but we choose to move on,
we closed (or we definitely should) this chapter.
Shut this door...door in your past.
Just learn on your mistakes.
Take your lessons to the present and/or future.
That's it.
But what do we do?! We live in a past. We use imagination, creativity, dreams, hopes and we make our past so appealing and dreamy adding what didn't exist. Why do we forget the worst parts and remember only happy moments that take us back again and again. We can not focus on a present, we go back and torture ourselves with "what if", "what have I done wrong", "may be", "why".
MY girlfriend recently mentioned that she is still into her "ex" (after 8 years of separation), and she can not find anybody relevantly even close to that person, and she never felt anything similar with anyone else..... Why do we do it to ourselves?!
"Ex" that she has in her mind, in her memories simply doesn't exist. He is not the same person what he was 8 years ago, plus all those 8 years she was creating him, she was fixing, coloring, building a perfect man in her mind. She met him after 8 years for dinner, he is bold now, fat and boring. Still not married, no kids, and lonely. She said she loves him, still. Nope, baby, you do not. You love the product of your imagination that you were creating all these years. Nothing left from that person that you were in love with 8 years ago, so move on. Stop comparing, stop looking back, stop feeding your imagination adding to his character qualities that he doesn't have and never did.
We will never love the same or experience the same or feel the same about different people and nothing is wrong with that.
We will love stronger, we will feel more passionate, and it will be different and that's ok.
Stop living in a past. Wake up, open your beautiful eyes, move on and enjoy your "today".
It is no "IFs", no "WHYs", it is because...... ask yourself just what I have learned, how I will use it in my present or future and live your live.
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