HANDSOME VS. UGLY.
SMART VS. IDIOT.
BORING VS. INTERESTING.
GOOD GUY VS. BAD GUY.
A couple days ago I saw a guy walking in my direction, he was handsome, sexy, tall, with olive skin, stylish hair, silky skin and perfect body..... He started a conversation trying to find out what I like to do in my free time. I think I mentioned art shows, galleries, exhibits, opera, theatre, sport and etc. You know what my "Perfect-only-first-five-minutes-prince" said?! He said: "Come on, Barbie, lets go party!" He wasn't perfect anymore..... He just ruined it...... Trust me, sense of humor wasn't his quality. Basically starting right from that moment I knew I should just wish him luck. I knew who he is and what he wants, I could picture our short-maximum-two-dates-future together. It WAS A HUGE (BIGGEST RED FLAG EVER) RED FLAG.....
But some of us, and I know a lot of girls who would give him a chance. A chance to ignore them, a chance not to follow through, a chance to play with them and to play them, a chance to cry over him, a chance to waste their time.
Why?! If we know everything from the beginning. We see all red flags, but we do not want to notice, we are closing our eyes and look in a different direction.
We know he is not the one, but some of us want to waste time to find it out. Ohhhh!
WHY!?
We all have priorities. And it might be a job, family, friends and etc.
But when you are not his second, or third, or even fourth choice, why do you keep asking the same question: "why, why, why, why?" if you knew everything from the beginning.
One of my girlfriends met "that-special-handsome-intelligent-established-perfect (ha ha ha) man!
He was late on a first date (of course, not a big deal, it's traffic in LA),
he didn't reply on her text message for 2 days
and didn't call her back when she asked him to (yeah, people are busy),
he also decided to cancel or postponed a date, because he decided to play golf with his buddies and they went for dinner after and he had to cancel a dinner date (yeah, people have passion for something and they have to spend time with friends),
also he didn't come right away after work when you told him that you are sick, because he had to go to the gym (I understand, health is the most important thing and people must work out),
he never asks how are you or what are you doing (probably, he gives you some space and he is not noisy and annoying),
he prefers to stay at home and order from the Chinese place downstairs and watch TV all evening holding a remote with one hand and hugging you with another.
He doesn't know if you have siblings, where is your family leaves and he always forgets how you like your coffee. He doesn't remember your work schedule and always gets you flowers that give you allergies. He forgets that you hate peanuts and always orders you salad with peanuts and chicken with peanuts. I know I exaggerate but you got my point.
Why are you still trying to fix the relationship? It is no relationships, never was. Why do we like to suffer with a wrong guy just to be with someone?! Why we give a chance to the wrong people?! Why?! WHY!? WHY!??????
And you are still asking why relationship is not working out and you are holding to this man thinking that everything one day will change..... Really?! Are you serious?!
And a nice kind friend is always there for us. A nice guy who is always unnoticed, a nice guy whom we put in our "only friend" list, because he is not handsome (or hot), he is not established (or rich), he doesn't have a glamorous job (he makes his living), but he has a big heart, he knows everything about us, he knows how to make us smile, how to make us happy and we appreciate it, we spend time with him, but he will be always a friend, just a friend, only a friend, because he is a nice guy and apparently right now a comment like "you are a nice guy" is not a compliment at all, it is a destination to "only friend" list.
Why?
What are we looking for?
What do we want?
To cry over some asshole or to give a nice guy a chance to make us actually extremely happy.
Lets look around, lets notice those amazing nice guys...
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